Ciara - You Can Get It (New Music)

Usually I don't speak about personal relationships and dating on SSD because this dating subject is a whole another can of worms I'd rather not open.

I do however have a love for music and so when the music incorporates real life situations in the lyrical content then I have no choice but to chime in.

What??? I'm just bringing you that heat, like normal.

The interesting thing about today's song "You Can Get It" by Ciara is lately I have been dealing with situations where I want to say to people, "Yo, Just Keep it Real."

Stop trying to pretend that you aren't interested when you really are. AND definitely stop acting like you could be interested when in fact you KNOW you really aren't. i.e. wasting everyone's time.

Atleast be honest with what it is you truly want from that "relationship."

I have a lot of female friends, so I hear all types of "stories" and its almost to the point where I want to grab a loud speaker and just go through the neighborhoods repeatedly saying, "Be upfront, keep it real." In other words, stop selling dreams.

In You Can Get It, I feel Ciara is right on point in a way where I wish more "liberal" women would be. Its almost like an oxymoron seeing as its supposed to be 2010 with equal rights but yet some women want to still pretend its back in the '40s when it comes to dating.

I say play the part entirely. When women want anything else in life including jobs, houses, pay raises etc, in this day and age is more than empowered enough to go get it. Why can't the same thing be said for a woman being vocal about wanting and getting her partner's initial attention?

I have heard some of my friends say if a guy doesn't approach her, she won't make the first move either. That can be detrimental seeing as she may miss out on something great.

I actually love a confident woman that knows what she wants. Don't wait for a guy to approach you, he might not catch your subtle clues.

The truth is most guys are aggressive and assume every girl wants them, and eventually the law of averages works out, but what about professional, reasonable and logical people (such as myself) that deal with women every day?

I'm a professional photographer so I would be an idiot to think that every woman that smiles at me is literally interested.

What I like about this song is Ciara is basically saying, yo I like this guy, I'm gonna tell him.

"Oh, Four Oh Four, Six One Two
Hand me the phone I'll put it in for you
Oh Woah Woah

Find myself slow dancin' to the song (to the song)
See you watching baby I will put you on (put you on)
Get up on me and I might just try it on (try it on)
Tonight...you might just get this phone number

Four Oh Four, Six One Two
Hand me the phone I'll put it in for you
Running into you ain't no coincidence
I been watching you forever since ...

...Tryna keep it one hundred because I'm not with the games, yo
And I don't run around giving out in-fo
Not tryna be funny it's just a side-note
Otherwise I'm just fallin' for you"

-Ciara "You Can Get It"

In short, that's what I'm talking about CiCi, tell them what you want!

I will admit that I know alot of times women are worried on how they will come off by approaching a guy as well as worrying about what other people will think, but honestly, people will think things if you sit in the corner lonely, so why not go for what you truly want? I guess I should take my own advice. Ha.